Anne McCaffrey and Pern – Isobelle Carmody and Obernewtyn

Recently friends decided to re-read all of the Pern Novels.  So far Tehani Wessely and Marisol Dunham  read the first in the series and blogged about it here. To keep in the spirit of things I decided to read along as well. I had only read two or three McCaffrey novels including The Crystal Singer and loved those.  I Dragonflightnever got around to the Pern novels. So glad I did  because I loved Dragonflight and look forward to the next one, Dragonquest.

Another wonderful series in the same genre is Isobelle Carmody’s Obernewtyn Chronicles.  I’m quickly reading The Sending before tackling the final of the series, The Red Queen, released on 12 November.  I was lucky enough to be able to spend a little time with Isobelle at Conflux and she was still writing the Red Queenfinal chapters – that was in early October and it’s just been released. The woman is magic I tell you.

Both these series have had lasting effects on several writers I know and many readers.  It’s amazing how McCaffrey wrote a whole series with females as the main protagonist, especially in the late 1960’s and early 1970’s. Isobelle did the same in Obernewtyn with a strong, self-motivated female protagonist. Both series show how the girls grow into strong, able women who are just as capable as men in saving their societies and cultures.  It motivated so many women to do the same for themselves.

It helps that both Carmody and McCaffrey write in a way that is very accessible with a range of wonderful characters and each in an unusual and sometimes dangerous world.

I see that often Isobelle Carmody is tagged as writing Young Adult books but, like Harry Potter, the Obernewtyn series is definitely for adults as well. I find myself reading quite a lot of so-called YA and wonder how these books might miss out on the mainstream reader because they are labeled YA – many are great stories that have, in my opinion, wider appeal.  Still, it’s the publishing world and I’m not sure anyone really understands what’s happening there.

I love a good old-fashioned book in my hands when it’s a new release or it’s a series I want to keep to re-read. That said, I’m happy to buy ebooks as well because often the cost is less. If I’ve  not got any books in a series then I will buy the e-book series but if I already own hard copies, I will wait till they are on special or have free shipping and buy from Booktopia (my favourite online book store I must admit).books-vs-ebooksI’m hoping that with the birth of my second granddaughter Darcy, I will have a chance to read these novels to her in time if my daughter doesn’t get there first.  I will get a chance with Ashlyn though and that suits me just fine. And whether e-book or hard copy, I’m good either way.


2015 Queensland Literary Awards

Cat Sheely:

Short history of Qld Art Awards and current crop of fabulous award winners. Thanks Lisa for a great post.

Originally posted on Welcome to my Library:

Another host of talented Australian writers have been honoured in the 2015 Queensland  Literary Awards on October 10th. I am a a couple of days behind on sharing the news – but here it is!

The former Awards once included the title ‘Premier’s‘ but funding was withdrawn and the awards abolished  by Premier Campbell Newman, shortly after winning the 2012 Queensland state election. Thankfully,  in 2012 a group of passionate Queensland volunteers and advocates for literature established the not-for-profit Queensland Literary Awards (QLA).

The Awards recognise and reward outstanding Australian writers. The 2012 and 2013 Awards were made possible by the generosity and commitment of many partners, donors and volunteers.

It brings to mind a thoughtful, but passionate article written recently by author Kate Forsyth about funding for the arts and why it is so important. I quote: ‘Storytelling is absolutely crucial to human culture. Speaking up, writing it…

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Writer Conferences and the Aftermath

It’s been six days since Conflux 11 finished and it’s funny the ‘down’ you get after such an event.  Over the next few weeks and months there are several more writer conferences in Australia including the Sydney Writers Freecon 6-8 Nov, GenreCon 30 Oct to 1 Nov, SuperNova 24-29 Nov to name just a few.  For the full listing see Events at

As a writer it is very tempting to go to more of these conferences just for being amongst those who think and have fun like you do.  However, the cost, particularly of travel, can be prohibitive.  But it’s oh so tempting.  It’s a pity that those I really want to go to, those named above, are all so close together.  I guess it will take some planning but GenreCon or SuperNova for 2016 might be on the cards for me.

creativity word cloud on blackboard

creativity word cloud on blackboard

The other thing that these Cons engender is renewed energy to write. Several of my friends who attended are also writing madly at the moment. With NaNoWriMo coming up, I can see several great stories coming out of Conflux alone.

Even I have been working on what started out as a short story and is turning into a Novella. The writing mojo seems to be revved up and running and that makes me happy.  Added to that I have a few weeks where there are no visitors to Chez Sheely and no part-time work at the moment so plenty of time to get the fingers flying over the keyboard.

It’s Sunday but I decided after several weeks of neglect, the housework needed doing. As I cleaned toilets, bathrooms and laundry, dusted and wiped down cupboards etc I got a great idea for progressing my novella – adding in an additional plot line to make one part of the story much more interesting.

So I get creative ideas while doing housework. Hmmm.  That could end up with an overly clean house if I keep it up *chuckle*.  But I don’t think my husband would mind much. ht_apple_wireless_keyboard_ll_120716_wbOther writers I spoke to over the previous weekend used showers, swims and running to get the mind woken up and plotting. Seems just sitting at the keyboard can be detrimental to creativity.

And then there is the plotting – to plot or not to plot – that is the question (to hijack Shakespeare). Most writers agree that you need to know where your story is heading or ending to write.  I couldn’t disagree with that.  But how to get from beginning to end seems to be what suits each writer.  Some undertake detailed plotting with each chapter and scene dealt with before writing starts.  Others undertake a synopsis that provides the overall direction Plottingof the plot but leaves the freedom to move as the characters develop – updating the synopsis as you go.  I may add, that’s probably what I do and thanks to Marisol Dunham, writing as M.A. Dunham, who did a great workshop on that at Conflux.  Then there are those who simply sit down and let it happen.

All through the past ten years as I’ve been learning the craft of writing, there have been a lot of times when the advise is that you must plot. That’s great advice.  But it seems overall, that it is really each individual writer’s own process that needs to be developed.  You take in all the advice, structure, world-building, character development and so on, and then incorporate it into the way you, as a writer, work best.

So in general it is very much worth going to Cons and workshops and listening and learning from experienced and published authors, editors and publishers. The more you hear and take in, the more you begin to work out your own process. Advice is good, practice and writing and getting out there with your stories at critique groups. writers groups and submissions, is even better.

To me, writers conferences have two influences; the first is learning about other people’s processes and working out your own and the second, and to me the most important, is the energy to keep going and get creative.


Conflux 11 – Writers and Fans

Conflux is over for another year.  For the past eleven years the science and speculative fiction writers and fans conference has been held over the October long weekend in Canberra, in the Australian Capital Territory.  It is a conference run by writers of speculative fiction with panels, workshops and activities that both assist writers and provide fun for fans.  It provides an opportunity to meet well-known and respected writers and spend time with them.

This year Isobelle Carmody was guest of honour.21716189560_5cd0c8f435_o  Prolific author of fantasy fiction, she generously gave her time while in the process of completing her latest book, the Red Queen, the final of the Obernewtyn Chronicles, on a very, very tight deadline – the launch is expected in early November.  Between launching books, participating in panels and kaffeeklatches (coffee meetings), she took the time to mingle with attendees and chat. She spent time signing copies of her graphic novel ‘Evermore’ which she produced with graphic artist Daniel Reed.

The Mistress of Ceremonies for the four day event was Laura E Goodin, poet, playwright and short-story 21892265602_6ecdfc8a97_oauthor, Laura had the attendees in stitches as her introductions and announcements were constantly interrupted by urgent mobile phone calls from her home with questions about zombie apocalypses, imminent danger of death and starvation and all from her scotch loving cat.  She also wrote and hosted the Conflux Radio Play performed by several of the Conflux panellists and authors. The audience loved it.21951008176_9030441ee0_o Radio-Play







Another well-know attendee was Sean Williams, author of over 100 short stories and 42 novels with several Aurealis Awards and a Ditmar Award to his name.

Several books were launched:

Striking-Fire-cover-1 The first was “Striking Fire” by Dirk Flinthart, published by Fablecroft Press.  Followed by 

“Hero” by Belinda Crawford, published by Odyssey Books,

The Year’s Best Australian Fantasy & Horror 2014,  andBloodlines-web Bloodlines , published by Ticonderoga Publications,

“The Floating City” by Craig Cormick, published by Angry Robot

“The Time of the Ghosts” by Gillian Polack, published by Satalyte,  

Fanzine, “The Vortex” edited by Tara Ott and Maddy Piggott which can be found on Etsy and

The Canberra Speculative Fiction Guild’s latest anthology, Never Never Land.

The art show E Harvey Award went to Shauna O’Meara for the cover of Never Never Land and was richly deserved.


Cabinet_of_Oddities_flier_smallerFor writers there were pitching sessions that allowed authors to take their novels to a publisher to see if they were interested in their stories.  For fans there was entertainment like the ‘Cabinet of Oddities’ and the Banquet with entertainment by Meri Amber, self-styled ‘geek’ pop-singer, song writer whose delightful voice and wonderful songs had the audience clapping and singing.  I recommend going to her website and sampling her music.MeriAmber





This was my 6th Conflux event.  Every one I’ve attended is fabulous and the workshops and events, as a writer, are invaluable for improving my knowledge and skill as a writer. So much so that I was able to pitch my novel this year.  Whether it will be taken up is another matter, but just the knowledge that I’ve finished it and a publisher liked the premise of the story is a whole deal for me.  Fingers crossed it’s good enough to be worked on and published.  But if not, it was a learning experience I would not forgo.

Also being with fellow writers and fans who love genre fiction is, in and of itself, worthwhile.  For four whole days I was with people who ‘got it’ – who thought the strange thoughts I did, and talked in stories and about stories and had fun with stories.

So Conflux 11 is over for 2015 but now the planning begins for Conflux 12 – Red Fire Monkey. If you’re a writer or fan of speculative fiction, set aside 30 September to 3 October 2016 and come and join in the fun. Put it in your diary.

I am delighted to thank Cat Sparks for the wonderful photo’s. Her coverage, as in past years, was terrific.


Time Constraints

toobusyWe are all busy people, at times more than others. Over the past few summer months I’ve had the wonderful experience of having many visitors to our little retreat on the South Coast.  At the same time we have had an increase in interest in our writing group and at least 4 regular new members.  As one of the coordinators this has meant extra work.  At the same time I have begun a new part-time activity; I now teach Project Management from 1 and 2 day workshops to 5 months Diploma level.  All fun and interesting but requiring a lot of my attention.

It has meant that I have not had very much time for writing, blogging or even reading.  I’m feeling out of touch with my author side *sigh*.

Now that autumn is upon us, and the courses are all mostly set up, I’m hoping some of my time can be spent getting to my writing. There is a book that needs editing, several short stories that need completion, editing and submitting and a lot of reading to catch up with all the work my fellow writers group has done over the past three months.

Fingers crossed I can get it all done.


Reading, Writing and Research

A post from a writing friend Leife Shallcross, got me thinking about what I read, how I get ideas, what I write as a result and what research I do. Added to that, another writing friend, Donna Maree Hanson blogged about her writing drought and how she got going using writing ‘dates’ – meeting with fellow writers for the purpose of writing.

This past weekend I got going on a shortish story when Donna and Marisol Dunham came to stay for the weekend. Donna actually got around 13,000 words written, Marisol wrote 2000 words but got around a sticky situation with her plot by re-writing bits and planning out a new plot direction to overcome the issue.  I slowly and thoughtfully wrote about 4,500 words of the new story. It was fun, productive and the wine with dinner on Saturday night followed by a game, made it a great weekend.

I’m still learning the craft of writing. I’m told it’s a lifelong enterprise. But what I love about reading is that I now read differently. Yes, the characters and story are still most important, but I now look at what is good about the what I’m reading. Do the words flow? Are the characters well written? If I love them, why? How is the story structured that makes me keep turning pages and going on to the next chapter?

I see from my favourite books that I like a fast paced book that tells me about the character’s background in bits and pieces throughout the story. I like good dialogue and I realise that writers who really love and know their characters, despite what they do the poor buggers throughout a book, get me to like them too. I keep that in mind now when I’m writing. Not that I let my internal editor slow down things too much, but I do write more slowly to ensure some of my writing ‘ticks’ don’t show up. Things like word repetition. It seems I love ‘small’ a lot.  Or slipping into ‘to be’ verbs rather than active verbs.

Our critiquing group has a lot to do with improvement in writing too. It’s hard sometime to hear that something you really thought was good has some hiccups that need fixing but it’s really worthwhile sitting through the pain to get the gain.

And then there are the other writers. One thing I have found is that writers in general are very, very generous with their time and are fun company. Even well-known writers like Isabelle Carmody or Russell Fitzpatrick or Kaaron Warren are happy to come to writing workshops and conventions to talk to apprentice writers.

So I read all the works of writer friends who are published, and that is delightful. Most fun reads recently included ‘Shatterwing’ by Donna Maree Hanson, ‘A difficult second album’ by Simon Petrie, Tehani Wesseley’s anthology ‘Phantazien’ and Alan Baxter’s ‘Bound’.

Then there is the research.  When I’m writing, like this past weekend, and especially when I’m doing a science fiction story, I need to make sure that what I’m writing doesn’t hit a nerve with science that is wrong and/or impossible [although sometimes skipping explanations entirely is useful]. These days we are so lucky to have the internet. A quick read on Wikipedia and follow the links to the scientific paper and journals. Then, before sending it out, a favour asked of knowledgable writer friends and, voila, something reasonably good from that point of view.

I also read many more blogs than I used to. There is so much good and/or fun information out there just for a little time at the keyboard. Between blogs and Facebook writer groups, it does get a little hectic keeping up.

Finally, it seems I also need to stop putting two spaces after every full stop. Apparently it’s old hat, old school, no longer acceptable. But after more than 40 years of ten finger typing, it’s a hard habit to break {hmmm… good title for a song}. But going back and deleting or find/replace is also annoying. Guess I’ll have to change that too.

Having spent time with doing this, I now have to go back to the PowerPoint and notes I’m preparing for a workshop next month. This was decidedly more fun though.


On Climate Change and Other Government Policy

In the early 1990’s I began work with the Environmental Futures Group, a Ministerial Committee headed by the Australian journalist, George Negus.  The Minister was Nick Bolkus, Minister for Administrative Services for the Keating Labor government.  I quickly learned about CFC’s, the hole in the ozone layer, the parlous situation with water in Australia and, something that was not on everyone’s radar at the time, climate change.

As Secretary to the Committee, and with it’s support, I worked with Dr Darren Phillips from the Department of Environment to develop the ‘Creating An Eco Office’ . It covered recycling in offices, energy conservation (timers on lights and hot water systems etc), use of recycled paper and car pooling, bicycle riding to work.  It resulted in the implementation of recycling and energy conservation throughout the Australian Public Service and the ACT Public Service.

Last year, when the current Australian Government decided to disband the Climate Change Council, I was one of the several thousand people who put their money where their mouthes were, and began to support this important body.

I was very happy to see the acceptance by China and the USA last December, of the need to set targets to reduce pollution and environmental damage even though scientists have been clear about the need for more than 30 years – actually greenhouse gasses were first discussed in the 1960’s.

One thing that is still not as high a profile as it needs to be, to me at least, is the availability of water in Australia. Our water comes from rain, the monsoons up north that feed the Queensland rivers that in turn feed rivers that run into NSW and Victoria,  the Murray/Darling Basin and the Great Artesian Basin. Although on the decrease, Australians use 930KL per person per year. Only the USA and New Zealand use more water per capita than we do. Yet our water availability is sporadic in the driest continent on the planet. Add to that the fact that we haven’t yet won the battle against fracking that has the potential to pollute the Great Artesian Basin and the increased use of agricultural water (it was on the decrease, this government has managed to dilute the policies – pun intended).

And if anyone is in doubt about whether there is such a thing as climate change, just look at the unusual frequency of extreme weather patterns. All these the reports are based on scientific fact.

Then there is the logic, or illogic, of ‘continuous economic growth’. If we use up all the Earth’s resources, while at the same time polluting ourselves into oblivion, all for the almighty $$, what does it achieve? Yes, it will give short term benefits to all the wealthy people who run and invest in the big corporations. For many years now it has been clear the ‘trickle-down’ effect is bogus and no-one benefits from big business except big business. Yet our current government is fanatic about ‘growth’ and removing hard-won gains for those who can least afford it i.e. low-paid workers, pensioners, the disabled and children.

OK, to me less income for the underprivileged and those on low wages means less tax paid, less income to government and this bigger deficit because more will rely on government help and thus increase the deficit (I get dizzy thinking about this). I’d love someone to explain to me how, when there is less money coming in to workers of all kind (high, middle and low income earners), less people working or working full time and more automated manufacturing, who benefits beside big business. Certainly not the people, not even the various varieties of government.

A GST on food will add hugely to the weekly shopping bill of those who are already struggling. A middle income household is one with $41,236 after tax and levies while a low income household is defined as $24,700 a year. And there is no doubt there is inequality in income distribution in Australia (ref: click here). From the 2012 ‘Poverty in Australia’ report that spoke about the situation in 2010 (which is currently worse):

“• The poverty line (50% of median income) for a single adult was $358 per week. For a couple
with 2 children it was $752.
• 2,265,000 people (12.8% of all people) were living below the poverty line, after taking
account of their housing costs.
• 575,000 children (17.3% of all children) were living below the poverty line.
• 37% of people on social security payments lived below the poverty line including 52%
of those on Newstart Allowance, 45% of those on Parenting Payment, 42% of those on
Disability Support Pension, 24% of those on Carer Payment, and 14% of those on Age
• 62% of people below the poverty line had social security as their main income and 29% had
wages as their main income
• 27.4% of people with a disability, approximately 620,600, lived below the poverty line
• The level of poverty was 12.6% in capital cities compared to 13.1% outside capital cities

The proportion of people in poverty rose by approximately one third of a percent from 2003 to 2010.”

Add to that the proposed reduction in Medicare rebates leading to people NOT going to the doctor and, when they do fall seriously ill, put a heavy burden on the hospitals and add to government (note this is probably State not Federal) costs, additional food costs leading to less than optimum food choices for those on low incomes (after all fresh food is currently cheaper to buy than much of the processed food), and the rise in part-time work and thus lower wages and we are beginning to look like a very badly off 3rd world country.

All this stems back to the ‘spin’ provided by the current government when it was in opposition – for it did not provide any policies until 48 hours before the election (and during what was left of the media blackout) and any promises it made have already been broken.  And the media hunt for Julia Gillard and her colleagues because Labor is not all that popular with big business, especially the mining and resources industries.

So the question lies in what do we do now?  Yes, we can vote in another government at the next election and hopefully the Australian public will be sensible and do that.  But much of the damage will already be done.

To my mind, what is really needed is a better education system that allows everyone to understand the way politics really works in Australia – not just people in Canberra who work for, or know someone working for, the Australian Government/any version of State/Territory/Local government.  There is a fundamental difference in the  philosophical underpinnings of the various parties – old and new.  Within that, of course, are the various factions in each party.  I believe if people understood even half of this, than voting would be more informed, provide a better reflection of what it is to be Australian – a fair go for everyone.

I am an idealist, I know.  But taking kids to Canberra in year 6 and then not doing the best to have them understand voting, politics and the rest in years 11 and 12, just when they have to start voting, makes very little sense to me.  I believe it should be part of the curriculum like English and Math.

OK, rant over.  I feel better.  Thanks for reading this far.

What Do I Feel Like Reading?

This morning I finished a delightful book by Garth Nix called ‘Clariel’, a prequel to the Abhorson series that I read quite a few years back.  It made me want to clariel-Cover-Ausread the series all over again so I got them down from my bookshelf.  Then  I looked at all the ‘to read’ pile – those that I haven’t read before.  Meh, I said to myself, they can wait while I go and read the series again.

Just before Christmas I also forewent my ‘to read’ pile, this time for two new Val McDermid books in the ‘Tony Hill’ series.  This is quite a different read from the fantasy of Garth Nix.

In addition, I bought the next Ben Aaronovitch book in the ‘Peter Grant’ series.  And of course, anything Jim Butcher writes in the Dresden Files or Kevin Hearne in the Iron Druid series get an instant read as soon and I can get my hands on them.

So what is it about these and other series that makes me want to buy and read them instantly?

Firstly, I think that there is something in the characters the authors have created that makes them enduring.  Most of the leading characters are quite flawed; In the Abhorson series the protagonists all have unknown magic qualities they either don’t want or can’t use; Tony Hill is only a moral centimetre away from being one of the serial killers he catches; Harry Dresden is impulsive and makes decisions that seem right at the time but quite dangerous in hindsight, Atticus the Druid tries to stay alive but brings down multiple pantheon of gods onto his case and so on.

Secondly, the authors give them redeeming qualities that ensure the reader doesn’t just think ‘Fool’ and flicks the book.  In Clariel, Nix allows Clariel to use ‘Free Magic’ or in Star Wars terms, go to the Dark Side while still believing she’s doing good because she’s uneducated about her world and magic; Tony Hill knows most of his flaws and uses them against the serial killers while his personal relationship slowly burns with DCI Carol Jordan.  Harry Dresden tends to pull things out of the fire at the last minute when everything seems lost, as does Atticus the Druid.  The latter two series also have authors who are able to bring humour to their stories that break tension or are just plain fun.idc

And then there are the storylines; well crafted, exciting and in each case the authors seem to put their characters to extreme tests.

OK, so why do I want to keep reading about them?  What is it about these characters that I just have to know what they are up to, how they are going, makes me barrack for them each time?

It’s not the magic, although that’s fascinating, because then I wouldn’t love the psychological drama in the Tony Hill books. Or maybe it is  magic because what Tony Hill does, and Val McDermid writes so well, is the internal ‘magic thinking’ of those who kill for fun and giggles, so to speak.wiretvcover

For me, I think, it’s the battle against the odds, and finding something within themselves that allows them to go on when many would fail and fall by the wayside.  I would hope that were I put in such awful situations, I would have the strength and wherewithal to get to the end and achieve my goal.  But mainly that I am very unlikely to find myself in these situations and grateful that I’m reading about them, excited for the characters, but NOT be them.  I’m safe in my comfortable armchair/couch following the adventures of others, cheering for them, sad for them, terrified and fascinated, but inherently safe from their woes (hopefully).

A pretty powerful formula if, as an author, one is able to find such a character and storyline, and execute it well.

Time and New Year Resolutions

Happy New Year Everyone.

As always, it’s a surprise how quickly 2014 soared high, burned bright and became a thing of the past. I often hear, ‘this year flew past and it gets faster every year.’ But does it? Time, as we humans have defined it, is a fixed thing. It ticks along at 60 seconds for every hour, 24 hours every day for 365 days in every year, even accounting for some inaccuracies resulting in annual second corrections and leap years. We coordinate our lives by the inexorable forward movement of the clock and calendar.

speed-of-lifeSo if time is constant, it must our perception of the world and events that speeds things along. We all remember as children how long it seemed until our next birthday or next Christmas or simply how darned long the school year was because a) we wanted the presents while it took forever for the next set of gifts to roll around and b) most of us hated the imposition of rules and learning on our time with friends and having fun.

Somewhere along the way, our lives became  intertwined with others. We looked for friends and partnerships that for many of us are still part of our lives. We began work and hated that needing to earn money got in the way of enjoyment. The weeks became blurs and we looked forward to weekends that ended up never long enough for the fun we worked hard for. Then came responsibilities like homes to keep and cars to run; time began to speed up more as even the weekends weren’t enough to do everything we needed to get done (housework, washing, ironing, time with the kids/friends etc). Familiar, right.

internet_connectionAdd to that the exponential increase in connectedness that modern communication has brought. News the instant it happens, Facebook, blogs, Twitter and so on.  As a child it used to take two weeks for letters to get from Australia to The Netherlands and another two or more for the reply. Telephone calls to relatives and friends overseas were ‘hens teeth’ rare and even local calls were kept to a minimum. By the 80’s we had telex machines, then came facsimiles and in the 90’s, with me right on board because it was new, came the internet and mobile telephony. Today, we don’t think twice of a quick call, SMS, Skype, FaceTime call, Tweeting, posts on FB and email – instantaneous connections. I’m absolutely convinced this enhances the perception of the speed of time for so many things are happening all at once, even if we are not directly involved.

So here is 2015. Yet I’m sure only a few years ago, 4 or 5 maybe, that I was watching the 9pm fireworks from the courtyard at New Parliament House in Canberra on 31 December 1999. Michael and I were there with two of our closest friends to attend the Millennium Ball. We spoke of the past and wondered about the future. We were still in our 40’s but the 50’s were looming and the 60’s were out of sight. Our kids were in their late teens and doing their own thing for only the second New Year. We had a ball at the Ball and we looked at the new millennium with awe – after all we had all read/seen Asimov’s ‘2001 A Space Odyssey’ and even if space was not as close as those in the 50’s and 60’s might have dreamed, we knew more about it now and how much harder it would be to make those long journeys.

love quotes about life (16)Life went careening along and our 50’s came and went. Mike and my 60’s arrived with a happy and delightful combined 120th birthday party and we counted our blessings. So, last night, at the stroke of midnight, Mike and I were abed and snoring. Our kids, with kids of their own, were spending the time with friends and their children, and 15 years had rolled past in the blink of an eye. I find myself delighted at being a grandmother, semi-retired, living in a new place with new and fantastic friends that my 48-year-old self, ‘oohing’ and ‘ahhhing’ at the midnight fireworks of 1999/2000, would never have guessed at. And life is still very good.

So why does it seem only a few years ago since that Millennium Ball, or even 1980 when I had my first child? For me the answer is that I filled every day with exciting, fun, scary, difficult and fascinating things to do, people to meet, kids to raise and get through school, more work and retirement to plan for.  Every day began with ‘What have I got on today?’ and headed forward from there. Only occasionally did I glance in the rear view mirror to see what happened yesterday or the day/week/year before.

looking-backSo when I did, or do, glance in that rear vision mirror, the years seem to have sped by at a faster and faster rate as I filled them with more things to do, a partnership to nurture and revel in, kids to support emotionally and financially, life goals to achieve, careers to build, friends to cherish and visit, family to keep in touch with, hobbies to find and do and far too many good books to read. Along the way there were a lot New Year’s resolutions that ended up unfulfilled, at least in the year I made them.

So my conclusion about the speed of time is that I filled it with wonderful people; my husband and children, my parents now long gone (sigh), the extended family on hubby’s side and those fantastic people who became family to an odd Dutch girl (you know who you are) and so many careers I lost count at 6. Now I am embarking on anther career in vocational training, although part-time. So another factor in the perceived speed rushing years is as a result of a full, hard-working, useful existence.

My New Year resolution for 2015 is that I will take a few moments each day to reflect on how absolutely privileged my life has been so far in the hope that it might slow time a tiny fraction; a look at the past, throw a comma into my life, along with a small prayer of thanks sent into the Universe for being one of the extremely lucky few able to say that I am happy and content. And if it doesn’t slow things down, Meh. I love being me so….

Happiness-is-a-choiceIn editing this I realised I never mentioned the difficult times. Those times simply made me stronger and more appreciative of the good times. And yes, my glass is more than half full and I’m an optimist.

Dear Reader, I wish you all the best in 2015 and the years to come. I hope you find time to look back at the good things in your life, and even if 2015 races by faster than you would like, I wish you the ability to find happiness and joy so you may appreciate every single moment of it.